Judging is a very destructive bad habit that almost all of us suffer from. Besides the fact that judging is destructive in itself, the bigger problem is that we usually don’t recognize it as such. Read on and discover why judging is so bad for you.
We judge others, situations, and things. And it may not sound very exciting, but after you’ve read this blog, hopefully, you’ll understand more of it and decide to do something good for yourself.
Have you ever tried to be completely judgment-free for just 5 minutes? By that, I mean that you don’t judge another person, a situation, or certain things and just let them be what they are? Just notice how difficult that is.
Most people judge in one way or another. It is something we have been taught.
Judging is telling yourself a ‘story’, about something or someone. You attach a label to something, from what you think should be the ‘norm’. ‘This’ is good, and ‘that’ is no good.
But what you are actually doing is creating division and separation. And from there, aversion, disgust, and even hatred can arise.
Difficult…
People, in general, are so different that sometimes it’s difficult to not have an opinion. Suppose you see someone who is very fat, or incredibly slim, or someone with abnormal hair, or arms full of tattoos.
Or how about driving behavior in traffic? What if someone makes a strange move with the car, or drives too slow or too fast? It is then so easy to have a judgment about that.
The more you judge, the more separation you actually create. You draw a line between that other person and yourself. By judging you actually train your brain to find things that are different from what your “norm” is. And everything you find you immediately have a judgment about again.
Why is judging bad for you
Ultimately, judging leads to a flood of negativity and stress. This can then lead to:
- Health problems
- A weakened immune system
- High blood pressure
- Chronic fatigue
- Depression
- Anxiety disorders
- And even a brain attack
In the end, it doesn’t make you any happier. And it’s all because you’re judging. Bizarre, right?
And there’s something else. When you judge, you usually and primarily focus on negative things. And what you focus on you get more of. I myself am not perfect and judged too. Until I noticed something very strange.
Judging in Spain
Most people know that I have been living in southern Spain for many years. And the mentality of the Spanish people here is very different from, where I was born.
When I was driving my car, I often encountered other cars driving super slowly or dangerously fast. Where you were allowed to drive 50 mph, they drove 20, 30, or 40 mph. Or they drove around 80 or 100 mph. In all cases, I judged them for sure.
What I discovered
The crazy thing I discovered was that the harder and more I judged, the more of the same sort of people and situations I encountered.
(Previously, I would have written idiots, instead of people, but then I would be judging again.)
If I passed a slow-moving car, I was guaranteed to run into another one a few miles further on. And again I judged. And so on.
I just started noticing it and I took the test. For 1 week, no judgments about other drivers. Not even thinking judgmental thoughts. No matter what happens. No judgment! Just to see what happens.
And I can tell you it was very difficult. Judging was so ingrained and such an automatic thing that I didn’t even realize I was doing it.
But now I was paying close attention. At first, I almost had to bite off my tongue. But eventually, it became easier and even more fun. I stopped judging. No more judging by speaking words and no more judging in my mind.
It’s working!
And surprisingly, I encountered fewer and fewer cars and situations that I had previously had strong judgments about. The difference was so huge that it could not be a coincidence. It worked! So after a week, I decided to continue with it. It gave me a lot of peace, annoyances in traffic disappeared into thin air and I could really draw the conclusion that it just works. And if it works in traffic, it should also work in other areas.
That’s why I have 7 tips for you to stop judging too. Use them and I promise you that it will make you feel a whole lot better, because annoying things, situations, and people just disappear or change.
Tip #1 – First, it’s important to realize that no one is perfect. Not even you. We all live on the same planet, breathe the same oxygen, and have the same body structure. The only real difference is everyone’s inner world.
Tip #2 – Ask yourself what right you actually have to judge another person. Be more focused on yourself and remember that everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Tip #3 – Of course, becoming free of judgment is not easy. A good start is to turn any form of judgment in your mind into a form of acceptance. Accept people, things, and situations for what they are. At first, this will feel unrealistic and weird. But as with anything, this will get used and make you feel better.
Tip #4 – Realize that you are not in that other person’s shoes. Everyone has a different life with different experiences, fears, and issues. So you usually have no idea who you are judging.
Tip #5 – Set yourself a goal to erase the bad habit of judging. Judging is a habit because you’ve been doing it for so long. And just as judging is a habit, you can replace it by making it a positive habit. Think about tip #3 here.
Tip #6 – Realize that you don’t have the facts to judge. If you don’t want to look like a liar, it’s better to keep your judgment of another person to yourself until you know the rock-solid facts. Even then it is better to turn your judgment into acceptance. You don’t do that for the other person, but mainly for yourself.
Tip #7 – Because judging is often a deeply ingrained habit, the quickest route to stop judging is to listen several times to the special audio download: ‘Stop Judging’. This will reprogram your subconscious mind very fast to stop judging, so you will quickly start experiencing the positive effects.
Listen to the audio download ‘Stop Judging’
When you listen to the ‘Stop Judging’ audio download a few times you will be less likely to judge. The easiest way to stop judging, which leads to inner conflicts, is by listening to this special download.
If you struggle with judgment and have issues with controlling your emotions about people or situations, ‘Stop Judging’ will be the answer for you!
You will create a new positive habit of not judging. You will always want to know more about people and/or situations before you draw conclusions. As a result, your value judgment becomes more important and you start to see more details.
You are also going to feel much more relaxed. You get less annoyed with others, you enjoy interacting with people more, you start to feel happier and your own success grows! It’s a great way to become a better person and feel happier.
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